Valentines Meet and Greet

[ysabetwordsmith]

I've been participating in snowflake_challenge, where lots of folks want to see more activity on Dreamwidth. While researching community activities, I came across the idea of thematic meet and greet events. That seemed like something which might work here, given a membership of several hundred people and a new theme each month. So I made one for this month's theme. It gives people a place to meet folks with similar interests, and to squee about the current theme.

Here is the basic outline. Fill in as much or as little of it as you wish, depending on your interests as they relate to the Valentines Fest.


Name: Whatever you wish to be known by.
Sex/Gender Identity: Share any descriptions you wish people to know about you, including pronouns.
Sex/Romance/Other Orientation: Who you connect with and how.
Find Me At: Your other blogs, services, or venues.
What I Love About Valentines Day: Favorite activities, traditions, decorations, stories, etc.
What I Hate About Valentines Day: Things you wish would go away, in real life or entertainment. Die, trope, die!
What I Love to Do By Myself: How do you treat yourself when you're alone? Self-love, self-romance, favorite sex toys, favorite snuggly things, places you like to visit alone, your One True Chocolate, whatever.
Heartbreak: Ways you enjoy breaking your characters, canonical breakups and betrayals, favorite fanworks about breakups, that time you got your heart broken, creative revenge ideas, horrible ex tropes, and such.
Romantic Favorites: Romance movies or novels, fandoms, tropes, etc.
Erotic Favorites: Sexyfuntimes in fiction, movies, art, or whatever. Slash all the things!
My Kink(s): In person, writing, or reading; favorite toys, pervertables, plausible deniability, kink-friendly fandoms, best kink scenes in movies, and the like.
Platonic Favorites: Nonsexual intimacies, situations. tropes, sex-free movies or books, ace/aro-friendly fandoms, and so on.
Favorite Blogs or Communities: Anything on Dreamwidth, or other venues, relating to the above topics.
About My Blog: A general description of your blog metaphor, what your blog contains, common formats / media, activity level, typical rating level, featured fandom(s) or original work, etc.
What I Create: Anything you make that relates to the Valentines theme or above topics; fandoms, formats, recurring motifs, and so forth.
What I'm Looking For: Things you would like to get from this activity; readers, comments, recommendations of fandoms or fanworks, new friends, wider representation of something, etc.


Feel free to copy this Meet and Greet into your blog as well as filling it out here -- you may catch some of the holiday traffic.

<br /><strong>Name:</strong> <br /><strong>Sex/Gender Identity:</strong> <br /><strong>Sex/Romance/Other Orientation:</strong> <br /><strong>Find Me At:</strong> <br /><strong>What I Love About Valentines Day:</strong> <br /><strong>What I Hate About Valentines Day:</strong> <br /><strong>What I Love to Do By Myself:</strong> <br /><strong>Heartbreak:</strong> <br /><strong>Romantic Favorites:</strong> <br /><strong>Erotic Favorites:</strong> <br /><strong>My Kink(s):</strong> <br /><strong>Platonic Favorites:</strong> <br /><strong>Favorite Blogs or Communities:</strong> <br /><strong>About My Blog:</strong> <br /><strong>What I Create:</strong> <br /><strong>What I'm Looking For:</strong> <br />

Comments

Hello!

[ysabetwordsmith]

>> I don't think I've completed a Bingo yet. Hopefully, I can fix that this month <<

Go for it! Remember you can make a smaller card if the usual sizes are bigger than you find ideal.

>> At my age, you would think I would know, <<

Some people take a while to figure it out. Sex/gender is complicated.

>> but I'm still pretty confused by everything. <<

Arovague - Is someone whose status as an aromantic is uncertain or affected by mood.

Noviromantic - Is someone who experiences a complicated romantic attraction (or lack thereof) such that they do not feel it can be described in a single term

Quoiromantic - Is someone whose romantic orientation is on the aromantic spectrum that describes people who cannot differentiate between platonic and romantic attraction, cannot define romantic attraction and therefore are not sure if they experience it, experience attraction somewhere between romantic and platonic, or want to be in a queerplatonic relationship. It’s also known as WTFromantic or Whatromantic or Platoniromantic.

See, you're not the only one who finds it confusing.

>> I just know I prefer fictional relationships over real ones by far these days.<<

Autochorisromantic/Aegoromantic - Is someone who enjoys the idea of romance, but not wishing to be a participant in romantic activities (based off of autochorissexual / a disconnection between oneself and a romantic target or fantasy).

Fictoromantic - romantic attraction exclusively to fictional characters or people that aren't real, or being aromantic while feeling romantically attracted to fictional characters.

https://www.asexuality.org/en/topic/189399-only-attracted-to-fictional-characters/

>> I guess when people act like if you don't have a partner on Valentine's Day it's the end of the world. I don't get that. <<

Some people wrap up their whole identity in another person, so without that, they feel like they are nothing.

>>I like reading erotic femslash stories.<<

You might like fefemslashweek, femslash_kink, femslashex, girlgay, ladiesbingo, rarefemslashexchange, and so on. Just type "femslash" into the DW Interests box and see what you get.

>>Unfortunately, many of the fandoms I'm in there's just not a lot of femslash, let alone 'kinky' femslash. I need to branch out, seriously. <<

Have you tried Wednesday? It has numerous female characters and thus lots of femslash, although a majority is Wednesday/Enid.

See also Femslash Top 100.

>>I don't really know about any ace-friendly fandoms but I'd like to hear about them.<<

Good Omens -- they're angels, so it follows that they may not be into rubbing squishy bits together like humans.

Sherlock Holmes, especially the Sherlock series -- generally Sherlock is married to his work, has a queerplatonic bond with John Watson, and a fucked-up kismesissitude with Moriarti.

>>I wasn't sure what to do with it for the longest time so it was a hodge-podge of a dozen different things but lately, I've taken an interest in organizing it so I am adding a little fan fic, some graphics, TV show commentary, and stuff like that. <<

Some people find recurring posts helpful in organizing their main topics.

>>There are also tons of lists of challenges I want to do someday or ones that are already in progress.<<

whenisitdue may be helpful. It shows the deadlines for as many events as they can find.

>> I am sorry I wrote so dang much! lol <<

No, it's great to get people talking!