>>So... thank you for making more clear to me what's going on in my brain. It's still not pleasant, but at least it's good to have a fairly clean explanation to pin this feeling on.<<
I'm sorry the situation sucks, but glad I could help. This does give you an action plan: minimize other things that drain your energy, and look for things that restore your energy or help you resettle your mind.
Do you know what kind of things help? If not, consider getting a long list of coping skills and trying different ones to see what does. Some things I use when I need to reset or recharge: * walking outdoors * having a snack, especially fresh fruit * listening to nature sounds or soothing music * rereading a favorite story (usually not something new) * folding laundry (takes energy but is good for organizing thoughts) * taking a nap (if nothing else will reboot the brain)
>> P.S. Why do so many members of my family (read: all of them) respond to "let me finish typing this thing before you can do the other thing (e.g. reset the router)" with "let me talk at you and/or loom over your shoulder and then wonder why you can't get it done any faster"? <<
1) Some people's brains are wired differently, and what is distracting for you might not be so for them, so they fail to grasp that what they are doing may cause delays or crankiness.
2) They may be unable to entertain themselves for 1-2 minutes while you finish.
3) They may think that if they pester you, then you will in fact finish sooner to make them stop.
This is careless and disrespectful behavior, but is rarely malicious. Sometimes just pedantically repeating "I will give you my attention as soon as I reach a stopping place; it will take about (X minutes)" will work, as in teaching a toddler to wait.
>> P.P.S. Sorry for not responding to your PM about the poetry yet; it was a little bit of an info overload but I'm looking forward to going over it once I've got time to take a breath here.<<
That's fine. Now does not sound like a good time for you to be tackling mentally fiddly things. Though if you want to get a head start without getting into analysis, many people find nature poetry a soothing thing to read. It tends to have a slowing, calming effect.
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I'm sorry the situation sucks, but glad I could help. This does give you an action plan: minimize other things that drain your energy, and look for things that restore your energy or help you resettle your mind.
Do you know what kind of things help? If not, consider getting a long list of coping skills and trying different ones to see what does. Some things I use when I need to reset or recharge:
* walking outdoors
* having a snack, especially fresh fruit
* listening to nature sounds or soothing music
* rereading a favorite story (usually not something new)
* folding laundry (takes energy but is good for organizing thoughts)
* taking a nap (if nothing else will reboot the brain)
>> P.S. Why do so many members of my family (read: all of them) respond to "let me finish typing this thing before you can do the other thing (e.g. reset the router)" with "let me talk at you and/or loom over your shoulder and then wonder why you can't get it done any faster"? <<
1) Some people's brains are wired differently, and what is distracting for you might not be so for them, so they fail to grasp that what they are doing may cause delays or crankiness.
2) They may be unable to entertain themselves for 1-2 minutes while you finish.
3) They may think that if they pester you, then you will in fact finish sooner to make them stop.
This is careless and disrespectful behavior, but is rarely malicious. Sometimes just pedantically repeating "I will give you my attention as soon as I reach a stopping place; it will take about (X minutes)" will work, as in teaching a toddler to wait.
>> P.P.S. Sorry for not responding to your PM about the poetry yet; it was a little bit of an info overload but I'm looking forward to going over it once I've got time to take a breath here.<<
That's fine. Now does not sound like a good time for you to be tackling mentally fiddly things. Though if you want to get a head start without getting into analysis, many people find nature poetry a soothing thing to read. It tends to have a slowing, calming effect.